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TELL ME..... ARE ALL FOSTER PARENTS INNOCENT OF WRONG DOINGS ? NO !!!! I AM DEALING WITH FOSTER PARENTS THAT HAVE BROKEN ALMOST EVERY RULE IN THE FOSTER PARENT HANDBOOK AND RULES AND REGULATIONS OF DHR AND THE RC DECREE. READ THE FOLLOWING AND TELL ME WHAT YOU THINK. Dear Sir, I do not know if there is anything you can do to help my family and I or not. I really don't know where to turn. I have to say this is a very complicated and serious matter. If you can't help me maybe you can direct us the right direction. I will try and be as brief as possible. This all started Jan 03 when I reported my daughter and her husband to Jefferson County (Alabama) DHR. They were investigated by a social worker at DHR and were given notice to clean up their home as so forth. I will add my daughter knew it was me that reported her due to the social worker in charge of their case leaving my daughters file at another clients home and that person called my daughter and read to her word for word that was in her file. Needless to say it took my daughter a year to speak to me again. Well on April 24-25 my sister Susan Thomas recieved a phone call from Sharon Anderson (step-grandmother) of Amber and DJ , that things were really bad at Kim and Davids (my daughter and son-in-laws, Amber and DJ parents) They were sitting in the house with no power (I had kinda guessed that because they lived very close to us and we rode by there the day before and it looked like the power meter had been pulled, I had no idea that they were still living there) Sharon informed Susan that David was about to lose his job (again), Amber was going to school dirty and she suspected that David was abusing Amber and they were about to be evicted from their home. Something had to be done, well... knowing Kim would not dare talk to me, I again filed a report with DHR. The children were removed from the home. They were taken to Tony and Sharon Anderson (Kims father and step-moms) home at Kims request. They were suppose to come to my home but that is another story. I was fine with them being there for the time, because they were out of the envioroment they were in. As I said this is very complicated and it only gets more complicated. All was fine for a while we were seeing Amber and DJ very often, overnite visits here at our home. Now I have to explain our marrige situtation... My husband Randall was at one time married to Sharon, and I at one time was married to Tony. We have been dealing with Tony and Sharon for over 16 years. And I have to add that Tony and Sharon knew each other first.... Randall and I met after each of our divorces were final. All went well for a while.... Kim again was sitting in the dark, David left her, which was a good thing, but Kim in a very depressed state. I suspected Kim of having bi-polar (I was right), any way Sharon called me at work it was in Sept, 03.. all upset over a journal she had found of Kims. In this journal was detailed descriptions of abuse against her, Amber and DJ. Then she mentioned to me that there were some allegations of sexual misconduct against Randall. She told me she did not believe that part and neither did I. I just blew it off because I knew Kim was madder than fire at us. Sharon took the journal to DHR the next business day. Nothing else was said. Kim moved in Sharon and Tonys RV parked outside their house in Oct 03. Again things were going well as far as Amber and DJ still visiting here at our home, including overnite visits. Kim was speaking to me but that was all. I found out later from Kim that Sharon was always cautioning Kim not to resume our relation- ship as it was. (Kim amd I were very close, and we are finally getting that closeness back) Well Dec came and my youngest daughter Jennifer and her husband came home for Christmas(they live in Connecticut where they both go to school and work) Kim spent much of her time here at our home so she could be with Jennifer. (I have to add that Jennifers relationship with her father is rocky also, she does not spend much time at their house when she comes home) Well arround the end of Dec. Kim ask if she could move in here with Randall, Randy(our 7 year old son) and I. She said she was going crazy staying out in the RV, was only allowed in the house at certain times, they would not let her help with homework, bedtime or anything they told her she had to be out of the house during these times(we know now that is not true, we have a copy of the Foster Parents Handbook) I have to add Kim is a good Mom, she did not abuse her children.. her fault was staying with someone who did. David abused her also physically and verbally, and like most abused women.... they are affraid. Kim had no way to go look for a job.. Tony nor Sharon offered to take her job hunting. She was a prisioner in that RV. Sharon did take her to the Dr for depression, and was put on medication. I had voiced my concerns of bi-polar to Sharon, and that we had a strong family history of mental illness. Well anyway Kim moved in with us and the problems began. We had a very hard time contacting the Anderson's for visits with Amber and DJ. Our phone calls were never returned after leaving numerous messages on home answering machine and cell phone. After many phone calls to Kims social worker we got no where. Finally I filed a motion to intervene (my second) and we finally had what they called an ISP meeting. (Tony, Sharon, social worker-Pauline Truss, Kim and I)... it lasted a whole 5 min. we were told what visitation we could have and due to the allegations Kim had made against Randall we could have ONLY supervised visitation. Kim would visit every Wed @ 6:30 for 30 min and Randall, Randy and I every OTHER Wed @ 6:30 for 30 min. Let me add Randall could not attend the ISP meeting.. he was on overtime @ his job. That was it.. when Kim tried to bring up talking to her children on the phone she was quickly shut up by Tony saying you do talk to the kids. Well Kim has kept a diary of how often she called, there were very few times she got to speak to them. I wondered why now the journal and the allegations were being brought up now ? We had overnite unsuper- vised visits with Amber and DJ AFTER the journal was found. I believe it because Tony and Sharon did not want Kim to do the things she needed to do in order to get her children back, because once Kim moved in with us, she got a job, transportation, finally got her counseling started, and is under the care of a Dr for her bi- polar and taking her medication. They want Kims children. After many letters to DHR, my senators, congressmen , reprensatives of the state of Alabama and numerous others we now have a new social worker. After the ISP meeting Kim told Randall that the journal was bogus. The stuff in there about David was true but the stuff about him was not true. Under the direction of Sharon, Tony and Leigh( Randall and Sharons daughter) Kim was told what to write. Kim's state of mind at the time was not good. This was in Sept.. David left her the middle of Aug. Kim was very vunerable at the time and being bi-polar, a easy target for their game. Yes I say game, Randall daughter was in on this also WHY ??? she and Randall are not speaking due to Leigh "borrowing" $24,000$ from Randalls mother Vivian Jenkins and never paying it back. That was 2 years ago. Judgement has been filed against Leigh in court, Mom Jenkins attorney is Jack Keyes in Bessemer. Is this anyway for foster parents to conduct themselves ? Well I am not thru yet... My sister Susan Thomas told me some years ago that Tony had done some things to her when she was a child.. she never said anything about it before then. She never told anyone for years... if she had I hate to say but my Dad would have killed him. Our Dad died in 1989. In 1989 Susan sent my attorney a statement of what Tony had done to her as a child. (my divorce attorney) It has been in my file until a month ago when Susan ask me to get a copy of it. Susan has been in counseling for some other issues, but her counsler told her it was time that she face that part of her life. I got the statement from my attorney and gave it to Susan and DHR. It was addressed briefly at the scheduled ISP meeting. We had a emergency court hearing today. The children were allowed to remain at the Anderson's and our visits are still supervised. They are no longer at the Anderson's, they are at DHR. Our visits at the Anderson's were very cold and uncalled for comments were often made. Something had to be done because I know if we could feel all that tension so could Amber. Now for a few questions.... is this in any way how foster parents are suppose to conduct themselves ? I know false allegations are made against foster parents all the time. Every word I have written is the truth. When a person is checked out to be a foster parent and have no record that does not always mean they are innocent, or does being a foster parent make them untouchable ? The Anderson's have broken so many of the rules, many I have not even mentioned. I will continue to write whom ever I think can help. Our next court date is in Sept. If all goes well Amber and DJ will be back with Kim. We are not playing games, I am to old, tired and busy for games. I am a pediatric nurse, have a seven year old son, wife, a home to take care of, a grandmom who loves her grandbabies, I have two grown daughters ages 27 and 24. So you see I would not be putting so much time in this situtation if I did not see the need and want things done right. Another thing I don't understand is that the allegations against my husband was suppose to have happen in the last few years.... Kim is 27. Susan was 13..... big differnce. And if the allegations were true why did Kim decide to move back in with us. There are numerous other family members Kim could have moved in with. If there is any way you can help..... please do. Thank You, Linda Jenkins 462 York Mtn Rd Empire, Al 35063

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We are scared. Our adopted daughter, 10 yrs old. FAS, ADHD, PDD, RAD has accused our son of touching her on two occassions. She is very mentally challenged and says this happened years ago. We had to place her in a foster home after years of abuse by her to our family. We are just in this disaster, lost, scared and confused. None of this is true and it is ripping our family to pieces. Please pray for us. We are so scared!

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Great website. ;) my best regards

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I'm sorry to say there's some sick people out there and I apologize to anyone reading this guestbook. Please start reading at page 81. Pages 82 to this page are mostly porn sites. A lot of people have written heart felt entries in this guestbook and I wouldn't want anyone to miss them. Thank you, Linda

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Very nice site. Keep walking.

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Greetings to you and your family. I have read your story, and my prayers go out to you. It is so ironic that I linked to this site after completing information to start the foster parent process. Reading your story reminded me of my friend, who is a foster parent. She also was a foster child, raised by our Pastor. Ater becoming an adult, she and her husband became foster parents. Her husband is also in law enforcement. The same situation happended, except the allegation was against her. After the ordeal (unsubstantiated), her husband would no longer allow themselves to be foster parents, due to the hurt and strain it placed on her. The Agency begged them to change their minds, as they were great parents (had adopted 2 of the kids), and there was such a need. Needless to say, the process caused America to lose two great foster parents!!!

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my brother is acusing by the goverment of alberta that my brother is abusing of his son thats not trut