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I appreciate you sharing your story on the web. I found it to be very helpful. I have also gotten a lot of support from a CoDA (co-dependants anonymous) group. This may be another good resource for your readers. I love that you took the time to write an epilogue. Very loving of you. Some part of me leapt forward upon reading it and said "Yes! I choose peace and harmony, too!" God bless you! – Patricia

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Thank you for all of your insightful information. I just left a 4 year relationship with my ex-highschool sweetheart about a month ago. I really need as much guidance and information as I can get right now. This website is a god send to my recovery. My eyes are not falling out of my eye sockets anymore and I can see the changes just looking at myself in the mirror- my eyes are so much happier without her in my life; they are brighter and I feel so much less stress in my life. I don't have to hide my keys and my wallet, etc. anymore. I feel like a prisoner set free. Every week I'm away from her I feel stronger and more confident. To all those in my current situation leaving the destruction and abuse of a BPSO, don't look in the rear view mirror because the hoover is waiting for you to slip up again. Put the pedal to the medal and quit wasting your life- you can't get the years back!

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Can I just say wow, just reading your letter dissipated my anger towards my x-BPD boyfriend!

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Thank you for this site, and for putting your letter out there for others to benefit from. I was involved with a woman with BPD for 3 years, and finally had the courage and internal fortitude to walk away. I feel liberated. The things you describe are uncanny, and so like her. My best friend now is also BPD -so I know how to deal with her as well. I seem to attract these people for some reason, but knowing that there are others who have the same experience is helpful in dealing with your own insecurities after dealing with a BPD. Thanks again.

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Both of my exwives are borderlines. It was "normal" for me to be in this type of relationship. I was with my second wife for six years. I thought that I was crazy and defective. I love her (divorced 5 months) but I will never go back. I read this letter over and over again. Sanity and logic return eventually. I feel sad when I realazie that she will never change. I am sad that I can never be with her again and sad that she fully "believes" If I just wasn't so angry we could be happy. anyone wishing to correspond with me would be welcome. It will help me to help you. Be strong and take care of yourself.

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good site

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AMAZING STORY - everyone who deals with BPD's needs to read this. I'm an R.N. that has worked extensively with BPD's and strangely enough I got into a relationship with one. I was doing the "i'm sorry i'm sorry" over & over. She was living in a group home & they made her file a restraining order against me. That group home did me such a big favor. I can't believe how enmeshed I became with a potential client. To all health care professionals; be careful not to cross those boundries.

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hi, i am signing in as a guest, thank you

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Thank you for this site. I have been involved with someone with BPD for two-and a half years. It can be so difficult and sites like this are a godsend, just to remind you are not alone.