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Thank you for telling your personal story. I'm a poet and I met someone online in 2003. The woman appeared very sweet and seduction. She was moving very fast, telling me she loves me without even meeting me first. She was living in a fantasy world, waiting for some Prince Charming to sweep her off her feet. It seemed like love at first site. Then, as I was getting to know her better, I discovered her moodiness, temper tantrums, accusations, lies and manipulations. She could appear as an angel at one moment and turn into accusing monster the next. I didn't know what to do. She had no idea who she was and changed her personality with different people. She was also bisexual and promiscuous, hiding numerous affairs. It's all beautiful in Oz until you discover the person behind the curtain. She was a high functioning person with BPD and was able to hide things very well, while appearing charming and intelligent. When she decided to cut me out of her life, she started to pretend like I never existed in spite of her numerous love poems, love notes and gift. I felt very isolated and depressed, feeling that I was all alone. A lot of people with BPDs won't acknowledge that they have a problem. They'll try to convince their partners that they are the ones who are moody, needy and irrational. And they are not likely to seek professional help. In BPD's world you can't tell reality from fantasy, truth from lies. I was in tears all the time and was hospitalized for depression. I am beginning to heal now as I read about BPD and hear other people's stories. I've added a page on BPD to my website, listing useful links, books and other BPD resources. Reading about other people's experiences helped feel that I'm not alone. With best wishes, Alexander Shaumyan poet, author of "Spirit of Rebellion"

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Very nice website. Thanks!

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This is very informative site. Great work!!!

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Really i like u home site , very good!

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I finally left my BPD wife 2 months ago. Your story is so similar to mine, the symptoms, the actions and the psychological effects. In my case there was the added pain of long term infidelity as well. Thank you so much for publishing this.

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10/16/2005 WOW reading this is scary. I dont know what to do but i know now that something has to be done. After 6 years and the illfated trip back from new Mexico i know i am on the losing end Thank you.

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I just wanted to say thank you for sharing your letter with us. My experience of being in a relationship with a BPD was so isolating - since very few people 'on the outside' were ever exposed to the behaviour I was as the intimate partner, I felt utterly alone and could not talk to my own friends about it, as it would sound crazy - the woman they all knew casually was a smart, funny, quirky good time. Thank you for your bravery, and I wish you happiness and the healthy relationship you deserve.

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I've found a great relief in your web because I know now how to deal with my own problems and the hurt my BPD ex made to me. Please let me know if there is any problem to translate your web pages into spanish because I think it's interesting enough. Thanks.

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9/21/05: Hun, you have helped SO many by posting this story & site. I very very often refer & link to it when posted at BPDCentral to enlighten other NONS about the turmoil of a BPD relationship. (I did so just now to a new Poster there, who is in the sam type of scenario you were in...) I indicate that BPD has no age,sex,color,creed barriers. Your tale is CLASSIC, and so very helpful for others. Thank you a million times for sharing it... between yours & www.DrJoeCarver.com, and his "Article" about "Identifying Losers In Relationships", so many people have "gotten a light bulb moment", and finally woke up to regain their self-worth, their self-esteem and their values. PEACE ~Nel =^..^=

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THANK YOU !