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Being recently diagnosed with BPD, I have been doing a lot of research to find out exactly what is going on with me and what BPD entails. I guess the most discouraging thing I have run across is that almost all SO's end up leaving someone with BPD. As of now, I have been in a relationship for a year, but I feel as if I am tearing it apart and that I will never be fit to ever be in a relationship. I hope that this is not true, but everything that I find out is so discouraging to me, and uplifting to those who are dealing with an SO to deal with or walk away from someone with the disorder.

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Hello, Thank you for writing this. It's been very helpfull and I believe that my last girlfriend was borderline as well. I recognized A LOT. Especially the silent treatments and the other passive agressive tricks and traps I walked into over and over again. My relationship lasted a year. It's been a couple of weeks now since I broke up. I received a package from the postman today. I wasn't there so he couldn't deliver it, instead he left me a note. The note said that someone mailed me something, but there was no information about the sender. The package will be delivered again next monday. It's probably 'her'. I left some stuff there so she probably sent it to me. I fear that the package also contains a letter, in which she'll probably brilliantly play the victim herself and tell me how horrible I am for leaving her. However, reading your letter makes me stronger and makes it feel like I am the one who was the victim for the greatest part of the relationship. If she does send me a letter, I'll probably write her something back like you did. Maybe not as long, but it will certainly be something like you wrote. I think you're helping a lot of people with this website, including me. Thanks for that! Regards, Thijs.

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Thank you very much for posting this letter. I have been trying to write such a letter, for my own recovery, to my BPD parents (it will be unmailed) and it has taken forever. Your words and organizational style have given me a huge boost and shown me the way to proceed. You showed fortitude, clear thinking, and great persistence in completing this monumental task, and have done a public service by posting it online.

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I can't believe how much this is showing me almost the exact same things I've been going through! I have been searching for 3-1/2 years to finally see what his disorder is! I felt like I was going crazy! Thank you so much for sharing your experience.

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I am a stuggling Borderline and have recentley hurt someone so close to me and i don't know how to deal with it. With my actions and behaviors i have lost my family. People tell me it's alcoholism and the doctors tell me it's BPD. I can't live like this anymore, scared of everything ya know. It just really helps that I have found this site and being reminded they're others like me. Thank-You. Jessica

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I think your site is very good and complete, but the information you have here.